[Holiday dinner*] |
As a society and as individuals, we tend to seek to identify differences. Politicians carve out constituencies by statistically defining groups. Reports in the traditional media are explicitly about the unusual, not the banal. The masses of parents preparing a sandwich for their children’s lunch before they go to school is not of public interest but an especially shocking tale, however rare, of child abuse is news worthy. Social media certainly is quite often a dividing force. Personally, as a translator and teacher, I have been taught and directed to identify non-similarities and explain them. Thus, the dominating tendency is to create us as compared to them images.
However, this week, I accidently experienced a welcome call to reality.
I teach general English to translator two groups of first-year engineering
students at the Braude School of Engineering in Karmiel, Israel, which is
located in the Galilee, a multiethnic area. The backgrounds of my students
include religious and non-religious Jews, Christians, Muslims and Druze. (This
year, I have no Ethiopian or Circassian students.) As part of the process to
accustom them to public speaking, I asked them to stand in front of the class
and tell the other students about their favorite holiday moments. To my wonder
and joy, each and every one of them, all 57, spoke about getting together with
family and friends, eating special meals and enjoying the feeling of belonging.
The occasions differed, from Ramadan and Ziyarat al-Nabi Shu'ayb to Sukkot and
New Year’s Eve, each according to his/her customs. However, the actual
religious or calendar event was ultimately irrelevant. All the students valued
the feeling of food, togetherness and love.
This wave of common joy led me to think about Thanksgiving. I do not
enjoy holidays as a rule. Somehow, the expectation that I am supposed to be
happy depresses me. Thanksgiving is the exception. It is a holiday of too much
food, bad football, and spending time with family. It has been some 30+ years
since I actually celebrated it because I live in Israel and am married to an
Israeli. Yet, I still have positive memories. My feelings are exactly the same
as those expressed by my students.
Living in a diverse community and having witnessed how easy it is set
off conflict among groups, I now see how important it is for everybody to teach
and encourage the recognition of common humanity. Instead of emphasizing
religion or color and creating tribe mentality, as in the Middle East and many
other parts of the world, each of us in our various capacities, including
parent, educator, marketer and even translator, should recall and transmit how
much people have in common. The easiest way is to seek and recognize the
universal reasons why people behave the way to do instead of attributing
behavior to a unique, often negative, factor. To do so is to oppose the tribalization
of society. Granted, the influence of any individual in the face of organized
and unorganized groups is very small. However, as small as neutrinos are, quite
small I assure you, when grouped they carry a large mass.
So, during this season, so important to so many religions, maybe because
of the winter solstice, the best way to celebrate is marvel how people
worldwide are so similar despite all the differences in culture, religion,
language and other background elements. It probably won’t prevent another war in the
Middle East or anywhere else for that matter at least in the near future.
However, the insistence on seeking the common denominators among us can only
benefit people and society if only in that creates hope for a solution. I wish
everybody many happy holidays celebrated by eating too much with too much
family.
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